Now you have better relationships in your life, it’s time to up your game and create new memories; slowly phase out the ones with your ex. Is this the restaurant you had your first date? Change it to the restaurant where you treated your parents for their anniversary. Boracay is where you had your first kiss? Change it to the Boracay where you and your friends totally got drunk and had fun. This is the date when your ex broke up with you? Change it to the day you started taking photography classes or signed up to be part of an NGO.
Keep yourself busy and turn your alone time into new opportunities. Focus on your work and hobbies. Reclaim your life for your own rather than remain defined by your relationship.
3. Enjoy yourself
Slowly, you will realize that your ex is not the end-all and be-all of your life. Ilang taon ka din single bago kayo nagkakilala. Revel in the freedom of your singlehood. You’ll get used to the perks: no one stopping you from hanging out with your friends, no responsibilities of texting back within five minutes, no more petty and exhausting fights. Enjoy the path to happiness not in the form of another person but your own.
That day will come when you finally wake up and say, “I’m back.” It’s as if the relationship never happened, and all the guilt and could-have-beens will disappear like smoke. Of course, you will still remember those times you were together but it won’t hurt anymore because you’re enjoying your life now. Like they say, the best revenge is happiness.
Now that you’re whole again, you’re capable of letting someone new in your life. The only thing that you should bring from your past relationship is the lessons. Don’t take what happened between you and your ex against the entire gender; learn to trust again.
This time, leave a little love for yourself so that if/when that someone new breaks your heart, you are left with enough pieces to repair it.
Finally, trust in God. The relationship has to end because there is a better plan for you. That is the infuriating part—not knowing that better plan. But it’s better to believe that all the pain you’ve endured is the series of twisted plots you have to go through to get to the happy ending.
As love takes time, so does moving on. But don’t do overtime.
How do you get out of your break up like a boss? Sound off in the comments section!