If you think dating is simply looking for a potential partner and calling when you like them, you may be watching too much rom-com films. Dating now is more complicated than ever. You’ll need to get through a series of complicated heartbreaks, self-doubt, social media obsessions, and of course, dating apps just to find the “one.” And if you ask people who have been in the “game” for a while on their fears and pet peeves about modern dating, one popular answer would be being left hanging a.k.a. ghosted.
Ghosting can be painful than a break-up; at least with breakups, you have closure.
If you’re the paranoid type who wonders if the person you’re dating will eventually ghost you, take note of these signs:
8. They take so long to text you back
For instance, they’ve already used the phrases, “I’m busy” or “Talk to you later” and then reply two days after (that is, if you’re lucky). When you finally get a message though, their answers consist of phrases that are impossible to reply to such as “okay”, “hahaha”, “yes” or worst—an emoji.
7. They seem disinterested in your conversations
There are times when you are excited to tell them about something, only to get a disinterested reply that totally messes up the mood. If this has happened to you a lot of times, wake up: you’re investing too much in a one-sided relationship.
6. They always cancel on dates
Cancelling on dates is a normal thing, but if it happens almost all the time, then that’s another story. It’s time to accept the fact that they don’t want to see you anymore, they’re just to coward to say it face-to-face.
5. It feels like you’re the only one exerting the effort
Whether on chat or during dates, if it seems that you’re the only one exerting effort, then maybe he’s just not that into you. Remember, if they like you, they’ll make an effort.
4. They never message you first
You’re always the one initiating the conversation and when the talking stops, it is you who has to approach them again. Don’t get stuck in this cycle.
3. They don’t introduce you to their friends
Sure, they’ve told you a lot of stories about their friends, but have you ever met these people? To them, you are a little secret that they don’t plan on revealing. It’s called stashing, in modern dating terms.
2. They don’t tag you on posts and memes
Tagging people on posts and memes is one way to make feel someone special nowadays because it means that you’re the first thing that comes to their mind. If they don’t do that, they’re probably not interested in flirting with you in the long run.
1. They only call you when they’re drunk
Drunk calls can be flattering sometimes, but then you’ll realize that it’s a ploy to mess with your feelings. Newsflash: you’re just another drunk booty call. Worse, they won’t even call the morning after.
Did you notice any of these signs? Sound off in the comments section below!
