Slater Young divided the Internet over his controversial take about whether it’s “very normal” for men to fantasize over women outside of their relationship. In the recent episode of skypodcast, the Pinoy Big Brother: Unlimited winner and his wife, Kryz Uy, read a letter from a listener whose boyfriend thinks this behavior is acceptable. Slater sided with the listener’s boyfriend, much to the shock of the Internet.
Slater Young says it’s “normal” for taken men to fantasize about other women
‘SAKYAN MO LANG’
“Pinoy Big Brother” alum and content creator Slater Young says men fantasizing and talking about other women while in a relationship is normal. pic.twitter.com/50ZdHxHME8
— Inquirer (@inquirerdotnet) May 13, 2023
The letter sender said she “debated” with her boyfriend about his behavior which led to him calling her “isip-bata or crazy.” She said while she never caught him being physical with anyone else, she did find out about group chats he’s part of where his friends would explicitly fantasize about other women.
Slater’s opinion? The boyfriend was simply being honest.
“The guy is being absolutely honest. Kasi syempre if I’m going to lie to you, and you ask me if I have boners [for] other women and if I wanted to lie and just to make you comfortable, I’m just going to say, ‘Of course not,'” he said.
This, apparently, was the hill he was willing to die on. Slater continued to tell his wife that the fact of life is there are “many other women more attractive than you or just as attractive as you.”
“Yung mga groups na nagse-send ng mga photos of girls and like fantasizing over it, it’s normal,” he added.
Slater Young says he’s part of a group chat where this is the norm
Mom and dad 🤍 2019
Thanks for these photos @patdy11!! pic.twitter.com/89WbKQGaSu
— Kryz (@kryzzzie) April 15, 2023
To prove his point, Slater provided a real-life, first-hand example and revealed he’s part of “a lot of chat groups” but these are “not necessarily dedicated to that.”
“Let’s say you have a group of 10 friends, may dalawa or tatlong tao na mahilig mag-send ng mga ganyan. May mga comment, comment pa. Sometimes, I have a friend whose dad sends him these types of things. Syempre ikaw, as part of that group, sakyan mo lang,” he said.
Kryz Uy wants peace of mind
4 years later…
Our marriage so far:
🏻 made the skypod a home
🏻 travelled as newlyweds
🏻 made a baby
🏻 learned “to mom and dad”
🏻 found a hobby
🏻 made more babies
🏻 started a podcast
🏻 travelled as a family
🏻 found our passions
🏻 stayed in love pic.twitter.com/oMQsAN2UGR
— Kryz (@kryzzzie) February 15, 2023
“To protect my peace, I’ve never looked at your group chats. Ever,” said Kryz, after Slater opened up about group chats he’s part of. “I’m like, bakit pa? Wala naman siyang ginagawa in person,” she added.
Kryz also said she’s part of group chats where women send photos of guys they find cute or attractive but clarified that she thinks it’s different when guys do it.
“Scientifically, I think it’s just different because guys are innately ‘rawr’ compared to girls,” said Kryz. “That is just the nature of things. As long as your boyfriend is not cheating, okay lang yan. Sakyan mo lang!”
The Internet begs to differ
omg slater super boo. nakakatrigger yung podcast 😫 how is it normal to have group chats where ‘some’ of ur friends randomly sends girls’ pics to fantasize with. how is talking about wanting to fck random girls normal to men?? and not considered as cheating?? ughh.
— air ༄ (@KimBabyPanda) May 12, 2023
The conversation earned mixed reactions online. Many are “confused” and “disgusted” that a married man would consider it “normal” to fantasize about other women. One trending tweet called it “triggering.”
“How is it normal to have group chats where ‘some’ of [your] friends randomly send girls’ pics to fantasize with. How is talking about wanting to fck random girls normal to men?? And not considered as cheating?? Ughh,” it said.
Another tweet read: “Not Slater Young saying it’s normal for men to have [group] chats filled with photos of women. [Please] lang fantasizing on women and sending their photos without their consent is not and will never be normal. WOMEN ARE NOT TOYS FOR ENTERTAINMENT :)”
not slater young saying it’s normal for men to have grp chats filled with photos of women 🤮 pls lang fantasizing on women and sending their photos without their consent is not and will never be normal. WOMEN ARE NOT TOYS FOR ENTERTAINMENT :)
— lyra ✿ (@iyaragasa_) May 13, 2023
Some thought Slater should’ve kept his opinions to himself.
“That Slater issue just proves that you don’t need to be 100% honest on the internet all the time. Perspectives are different. Relationships are unique to each and everyone. You can’t say things blatantly and expect your audience to go with it. This is such a rookie mistake,” read a tweet.
Meanwhile, Filipina sociologist Ash Presto said “Slater’s mindset encourages and empowers sexual predators while doing the opposite for women and girls.”
“His words are also invalidating of, and triggering to, victim-survivors of online and image-based harassment,” she continues.
Slater’s mindset encourages and empowers sexual predators while doing the opposite for women and girls. His words are also invalidating of, and triggering to, victim-survivors of online and image-based harassment.
This content is dangerous. We should not take this sitting down.
— Ash Presto 💜 (@sosyolohija) May 13, 2023
While many are disappointed in Slater, there are also those equally disappointed in Kryz for agreeing with her husband.
“NGL I feel sorry for Kryz because she’s probably seeing all the comments and reactions as a woman, she must have realized already that she could have disagreed. Sometimes we unconsciously internalize misogyny because we’re so used to living with people who normalize it,” said another tweet.
Slater Young issues an apology
After days of bearing the brunt of the Internet’s ire, Slater uploaded another podcast addressing the issue. He said he wasn’t doing “so good” because it had been “a hard few days” for him. Slater said that after the initial backlash, his first instinct was to defend himself for saying it’s “very normal for men to fantasize over women” but when more people criticized him, “it took a few days to sink in.”
“I finally realized na ‘Oh my God, I really made a mistake.’ Because I’m giving it power to say it’s okay. And me saying it’s normal kinda normalizes it and makes it okay,” he said.
“The last thing on my mind and in my heart is to objectify women,” he added.
Kryz said she thought the misunderstanding stemmed from Slater “using the word ‘fantasize’ so loosely.”
“I truly, truly do apologize. In my heart of hearts, hindi talaga ako pro objectifying women,” he continued. “It’s a learning experience for me, especially given the platform that we have. It’s something to move forward and to grow on.”
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