Life is Hard: The Beginner’s Guide to Adult Relationships
By Kevin Christian L. Santos
Remember when you were a kid and you’d always look up to adults for guidance? You always thought, wow, these guys seem so successful and they have everything together. There were also times when you thought these adults were lame since some of them seemed stuck-up and responsible to a fault. “Adults suck,” you said to yourself as you flipped your middle finger while drinking an ungodly amount of beer because you were such a kewl rebel.
Then lo and behold, you BECOME an adult. From telling people not to tell you what to do when you were a kid, now you ask for guidance. “Adults don’t really suck,” you say to yourself as you squirm in your seat while reading yet another self-help article. All of a sudden, regret and your insecurities fill your head. Maybe you shouldn’t have eaten all that candy as a kid. Maybe you should’ve taken up a sport. Maybe you should’ve done something more productive instead of watching porn and hating yourself after for fondling your no-no parts.
Oh dear God no.
Amid all the budgeting, pursuing your passions and the mini existential crisis happening in your head, you realize that relationships as an adult can be tricky. When you put on your big boy/girl pants, you realize that:
8. Making friends as an adult isn’t easy
You realize this because you notice that the friends that you used to hang out with got too busy and started drifting away because life happened. As an adult, it’s sometimes harder to get out of our comfort zone due to our fear of getting rejected. But in order to make new friends, you have to be able to put yourself out there. Get out of your comfort zone and talk to people. If you’re invited to a random party, just go. Keep doing the things you love and chances are you might meet someone who shares the same passions as you do. Hang out more at your favorite spots. Have dinner and drinks with your colleagues. You might just surprise yourself and it’s going to feel good.