Spending too much time on social media can cause us to develop bad habits: over analyzing, creating false assumptions and being overly paranoid. These are destructive habits that not only do harm to ourselves but also the people around us, especially when we carry this behavior in our own personal relationships.
Here are a couple of signs that you’ve probably spent an inordinate amount of time on social media and that in so doing, you may have been sabotaging your own relationship.
8. Status paranoia
At some point you’ve over analyzed a status message to the point where you’ve created assumptions because you ignored the context of the message. It’s a destructive habit that can result to petty arguments like, “what do you mean about that status?” or, “are you talking about me?”
7. Scrutinizing a photo with a friend
A good number of people easily get jealous when they see their partners in a photo with someone else. They start bombarding them with questions such as, “Who’s that guy/girl beside you?” or make snarky comments like “wow, you look so happy there.” Most of the time we ask not to be tagged on photos so as to keep the peace.
6. Adding someone in Facebook
Oh we know well the alarm bells that sound off whenever your partner befriended someone new on Facebook. Once that happens you hover over that persons profile and find out who the heck that person is, and how that person is connected to your partner. And if you can’t figure it out, you start to make the assumption that your partner is talking to someone new.
5. No likes, no love
You’re so excited to post that photo together with that clever caption you’ve been composing in your head for days. But once you’ve posted it and your partner did not click ‘Like’ (or worse, di pinusuan) you start to sulk and wonder why they ignored it.
4. Liked a photo, but not yours
But what’s even worse is when your partner likes another friend’s photo while ignoring yours. Noticing these little things only means you’ve developed a habit of monitoring the social media activities of your partner closely—scary.
3. Not posting pictures with you
Sometimes you wonder why your partner doesn’t post a photo with you; is it because you’re not important? Or is it because your partner doesn’t want to been seen with someone else? You then start demanding your partner to post photos with you.
Another habit we’ve developed is tracking when our partner was last online in Messenger, and we start to use this against them when they don’t reply immediately. I mean, they’re supposed to give their undivided attention, right?
1. Social media as a medium for communication
Now it’s either we keep the anger to ourselves or we vent it out in our social media walls—publicly. As a result, your dirty laundry is out for everyone to see.
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